People are difficult to deal with and there is no doubt in that. Especially if you are an introverted freshman student. College is going to test your social skills whether you like it or not. You will have to communicate with some of the professors and maybe even make friends with some of your peers. But the most challenging part is being surrounded by dozens of students every day. Being an introvert, you will most surely need a place to be alone for some time and have a rest from all the buzz around you. There might not be one, however. But don’t worry as we have prepared a list of helpful tips for introverts to make the college life less stressful.
Choosing the occupation
Think about this: you are going to spend a few years in college struggling to improve your communication skills but then you will have to face a real world with its challenges. You will have to find a place to work where hopefully you’ll enjoy being. To avoid the disappointment further in your life, think carefully about the occupation you would like to have. As an introvert, you can turn your attention towards the professions in such fields as psychology, science, finance, IT, and computer science. These occupations do not require regular interaction with different people and you will be able to work in a convenient environment. Check the list of other recommendations for future profession options here.
This is the time when the concentration of students per one square meter increases dramatically. There is no place for an introvert at this event but you need to book your classes anyway. To make this experience less traumatizing, try to be among the first ones or the last ones. Come very early or late. Doing so will give you an opportunity to avoid the great number of unfamiliar people standing around you and trying to have a meaningless conversation.
Looking for the right places
Everything around you will be unfamiliar and seem hostile. There will always be someone ready to jump out around the corner and have a chat with you. In the moments of anti-socialness, you will need some places to hide from everyone. Just know that such places exist at any university and you will just have to discover them. During spring and summer pay close attention to any open expanse like a park or uni garden. You might find a great place to study somewhere under an ancient tree. Even in libraries, there are places to get alone. Look for a “silent zone” where students rarely go.
Finding the right people
You will not be able to make through college without any social interaction. You will need to make friends with someone and make that interaction a positive experience. To do so, your task is to find those you will be comfortable being around. It is easy to do relying on your own interests and hobbies. If you like reading – join a book club within the university community. If you can’t imagine your life without watching old movies, you know what to do. When you have something in common, it is much easier to find a common ground with new acquaintances.
Shifting the focus of conversation
The secret of making any conversation with a person you are not familiar with less stressful is shifting the focus from your personality to the person you are talking to. Ask questions and listen carefully. Good listeners are of great value and people like to feel important during a conversation. Once you feel you are ready to say something about yourself, go ahead. That is an easy way of getting to know your companion and having additional time to adapt.
We hope that some of these tips will help you stay calm during the years in college. It is a wonderful time for finding friends you will have for the rest of your life so don’t miss this chance by sitting alone in your room. And in the situations when you don’t fell like talking to anyone, male the face expression that will send the right signal or just pretend to be preoccupied with something very important. Good luck!